My Hubby finds it hilarious, (and possibly a bit ridiculous), that I like to celebrate my entire birthday month. Why limit the fun to one day? June 21st is our 5 year wedding anniversary, and I decided to have the same month long celebratory attitude.
I know most people say marriage is hard. If the past 5 years is what “hard” is like-keep it coming! Here’s a few tips from my experience as Mrs. Motley Jew.
It’s all in the deets.
I believe that what makes our marriage so great are the million little moments that happen daily. We have shared loads of fabulous experiences…flying on a private plane with KISS was wild! But it’s the mundane day-to-day moments that make the relationship. We are always kind and respectful to each other. We are crazy affectionate and lovey dovey. I can’t image treating each other any other way.
Marry your Bestie!
I know this is such a cliche statement, but it is oh so true. You can have all the romantic chemistry in the world, but if you don’t truly enjoy each other’s company, the jig is bound to bomb! I find myself sometimes skipping fancy blog events, in favor of doing absolutely nothing with my husband. He is just so dang fun to be with! Having fun together, no matter what you are doing, is key. I love a great date night out with my man, but sometimes the random trips to Target or Taco Bell together are even better!
Have a family calendar!
So silly I know, but having a joint calendar is a game changer! My dude had to really push me on this one…this old fashion girl prefers a written planner. I still have my pretty pink planner, but we have an Apple calendar that we share. If I have an event I am attending on my own, my guy appreciates a note in the calendar stating, “wife event, monkey on his own for dinner.” Don’t mess with your man’s eating schedule, ladies.
Support each others passions
My blog was actually my Hub’s idea. He is my number one fan and crazy supportive. He has even developed a reputation among my Chicago blogger buddies as the best rock n roll “Instagram husband.” If you were to ask him to list a couple of my favorite designers, he could easily bust out at least 10. I am confident he could even tell you my go to skin care products. He has gotten crazy good at nailing outfit shots for me…he has no shame in jumping on a planter box outside our house on a Saturday morning to get a unique angle…even if he is wearing his bathrobe. The Husband brag could go on and on, but I am guessing you get the idea. I am not so bad myself…I never dreamed I would know so many KISS lyrics! Being a KISS wife has been an absolute blast. Sharing each other’s passions just makes everything more fun!
Never stop cuddling!
We laugh that we spend most of our time together in one little spot, affectionately named, “the cuddle corner.” I call our favorite position in the corner, “the Chez triple stack.” The Hubs on bottom, me snuggled between his legs, and our cat snuggled between my legs. We are always holding hands, smooching, and saying I love you.
Don’t expect perfection!
Nothing is perfect, and of course we have our tiffs. I am very sensitive, and am quick to get down on myself for being so emotional. My man always reassures me that he does not expect perfection, as perfection does not exist! He lets me cry like a baby when I have my moments, as being sensitive is a part of who I am, and he loves who I am. Never try to change each other. Understand your partner and their personality. A silly example, the man knew when he choose to marry me that I will never miss a season of the Bachelor! And so he has joined Bachelor Nation. And he will just love that I am sharing that fact. #TROOPER.
Speaking of being a trooper…can y’all believe I got the man to take these photos?! Many thanks to my talented friend Emily Frankel for taking all these shots I will cherish forever, (the filter edit is by me, it’s a blog nerd thing. You can find beautiful couples photography in the most beautiful of places on her website frankelyphotography.com
Outfit deets! ME: Show me your Mumu maxi dress with Stuart Weitzman wedges. Alice+Olivia denim, Madeworn KISS tee, B-Low the belt Farah belt, and Michael Kors heels. HUBS: Madeworn tee, Wornstar denim.
“Girl I was made for loving you and girl you were made for loving me.”~ KISS